Monday, March 29, 2010

Life without social networking

We'll Always Have Paris: Stories
With the exception of this blog and Ubuntu Living, I've largely forsworn social networking in its many forms, Plurk included.  So far, the effects have been quite amazing: over the past weekend, I've managed to finish two novels, Pride and Prejudice and Zombies and The No.1 Ladies' Detective Agency.  And now I am midway through Ray Bradbury's We'll Always Have Paris.  So in one fell swoop, I've recovered large chunks of my time and my life.

I logged on one more time to Facebook today, this time, to irrevocably advance my "suicide" for good.  Not content with Facebook's offer to delete my account, I went through my entire list of contacts and unfriended them one by one.  It took a while, even on Facebook Lite, but it added a touch more significance to the experience.  I felt each and every goodbye as I clicked on the X that would sever the link.

The exercise added the dimension of reflection.  Of the 700 or so friends I had on Facebook, how many did I actually feel any real connection to?  Honest answer: not a whole lot.  In fact, there were quite a few I was more than happy to say goodbye and good riddance to.  The few that I did care for I already maintained regular contact with (and will be asking out for coffee or dinner soon.)

Facebook didn't take kindly to my actions.  Either that, or I must have pressed something wrong.  Before I could ask Facebook to actually delete my account, they already deactivated it.  No more can I sign in.

And good riddance to that.


  1. I guess it's a good thing to lose the social networks. But I guess the fun of being in social networks for me is that I really get to know other people who I probably would have never talked with if not for common friends within the social network. Take plurk, for example. I just met this girl who I could talk music with. As well as photography with toy cams.

    I guess it really depends on each person whether he/she will give up social networking or what. And I am proud of your reading progress :D It's a good thing so you won't read/hear me complaining about you deleting your Facebook account or not being very active on Plurk.

  2. Goodbye, Plurk buddy then? :( This makes me sad. Kind of. :) But hey, I can always e-mail/text/call/ym. Which is much, much better anyway. :) We'll miss you,though. :P

  3. working from home and being a social recluse these days, i seemed to have developed some kind of sensitivity when a specific voice/presence has tuned out. since last weekend i've had a nagging sense that someone in my facebook friends' list has tuned out, i just didn't know who. i had a eureka moment a while ago. i realised i've not read your updates for a while now. i did a quick search of facebook and couldn't find your profile. google directed me to this blog. i'll miss the convenience of hearing about your day from the hegemonic interface of facebook, but i'm also glad to hear you're doing something that makes you feel more balanced. we all need to find and do something that makes us feel less out of whack with the universe.

  4. Dear binsoup:

    What can I say except: thanks for noticing! ;-)

  5. Clair and Paige:

    Don't worry, I'll still be around ;-)